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Six months

Elijah arrived into the arms of the neonatal team at 01:24 in the morning six months ago today, all 823g of him. I came home a little after 7 to tell the big boys they had a baby brother and … Continue reading

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The End of Term.

It’s been a while since I’ve written, we go on holiday in the morning and I wanted to post something before we went. Time is trickling on, and I forget how I was a few weeks ago. I wanted to … Continue reading

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Milestones

Father’s Day, Elijah’s 3 month birthday, 2 month anniversary of his death, due date, royal baby born. Since I last posted, these, and other milestones we’ve been dreading, have passed. I did my best to avoid all the hyperbole of … Continue reading

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A reply to Auntie Miia

Things have been hard since James went back to work. We’re really sad, things seem to be sinking in. James’ sister Miia messaged me to ask how we were this week, so this is (a very slightly edited version of) … Continue reading

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One month on

Blog posts are a bit like buses – you wait two weeks then two come along at once. Jenny and I both find writing about Elijah and the aftermath of losing him cathartic. We come at things from different perspectives, … Continue reading

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The immediate weeks after Elijah died.

Leading up to the burial and memorial we were busy, we had deadlines and jobs that needed doing. I was surprised at what I was capable of doing, just because it needed doing. Had I known about Elijah a year … Continue reading

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Memorial for Elijah Joakim Halse

We have reproduced below the programme for Elijah’s memorial ceremony that took place yesterday. Also included are the eulogies we both gave our beautiful little son. More than 100 people came along and many of them came back to our … Continue reading

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Formalities

We’re still here. It’s been a week. I think, under the circumstances, and perhaps compared to my expectations, we’re doing alright. We are drinking more tea than you would dream possible. If Mrs Doyle from “Father Ted” were here she’d … Continue reading

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The Bereavement Pathway

So here we are. We’ve landed on a path that no one wants to get on. This is the official term for where we are in the system. James started a blog to help keep people near and far in … Continue reading

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Elijah Joakim Halse

Elijah died peacefully in our arms in the small hours of this morning. A head scan yesterday showed his brain had been extensively and rapidly damaged due to his illness prior to surgery. There would have been no hope of … Continue reading

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